My cat fell out my bedroom window and she was very scared and gave me allot of trouble...?

I came home from a video shoot when I walked in my room I noticed an odd thing, my cat did not run too me like she always does. I had a bad feeling so I checked everything and everywhere but she was nowhere then I noticed the worst. The window screen was gone. She fell out of my two story bedroom window. I went searching all around the block. I know that in the past she had once torn through the screen on ym back porch but she went to my neighbors. However this time to neighbors dog was out and he was sitting there (not barking)... I called her name in her favorite pampered tone (Nemi, Nemi, Nemesis) but she did not come, I played her favorite calming ringtone on my phone (my alarm sound "T-Mobile Sonic") And finally I saw her but she ran from me and after chasing her she finally ended on my neighbors front porch under a chair... she kept hissing and she also has been there before because she pooped and stepped in it. Finally my mom pulled up and she started creeping out to see who it was so I grabbed her and she screamed and tossed and I was able to get her inside and i left her be... She is a very sensetive cat... I am like the onyl person who can gently handle her and knows what she reacts to, She hates my family but she snuggles with me, she gets frightend very easily especially with excitment or by hyper kids voices. But I know what calms her down ect... However I am worried that she may be hurt but the last time I took her to a vet they were "afraid of her, and thought it better if I put her back in her cage" Which when i walked in the room to do so she was like the youtube mean kitty. but the minute the vet left she was calm and went right into her cage. So I am afraid she is hurt but I am afraid to take her to the vet... And also how do I get the poop off her, she smells and right now is too scared to bathe herself. And she does nto let me give her baths. Is there a tip or trick to cleanign her?